idée fixe of Happiness.

How hard it is being Happy? Or should I say, how difficult it is to accept that you can be Jolly as you are?

I'll start on a general question, which you must have gulped thousands of times in your life. "Do you want to achieve success? Do you want to be happy?" Isn't that the lines you have let into your ears, the every pensive or thoughtful moment you gave to a motivational speech. So what it tells you is that you always need to be successful to be cheerful. But the irony is, the definition of success continuously changes from this moment to other. When you were in college success meant to top the college/ pass with good grades, when doing job, success can mean to be getting promoted on regular intervals. What does this tell us you can never be happy. 'Oops did I say it loud? , did it hurt you?'

Hence the first and the foremost thought is to keep success and happiness separately. Success can be told as something you achieve, while that smile you are longing for is right there, all you need to do is smile. Success is something you cannot acquire until you pursue it arduously, while happiness is the other thing which you will never conquer till you are hunting for it, even minutely. It's like peace, you let the urge go away and you have nailed it. Leaving the success to be a high pursuit chase and happiness is when you know you are pursuing your dream and giving the effort it needs. The idea as popularly known, is to "Fall in love with the journey and not the destination". 

There is an obsession with happiness that is being created. As the world is getting better place to live in, we are frequently seeking diverse paths to be cheerful. Around the world more and more sessions are being conducted to teach you to be happy. I remember a similar speech I attended by a person from a famous NGO saying,"In life you have tried this or that to be happy and life is not about trying to be happy but being happy". Then he goes on saying,"we are organising a session, and if you want to be successful and happy, please do join us". I reassured myself about the contradiction he made in his sentences to join the course in search of happiness, which cannot be searched. So I asked him what he meant, only to get a very unsatisfactory reply like we will teach you.

I have no idea, what people need to learn? The answer is simple and clear: "Don't try too hard". But what is everyone doing, they are trying still harder. What you need to do is to enjoy as you are, to be happy for what you have, to be proud of the work you do and to be happy for every single moment by the satisfaction, you are getting to be you. There are moments when you can be sad for one reason or the other, but all counter time you should be happy and not the other way around, as people today have developed. One should not be seeking it, but feeling it. Enjoy what you do, if you can't, change the way you do it. 

The idea is simple, you can always find a person successful, but not happy and vice-versa. The trick is simply to resonate with the environment and your heart will sing at double the pace. Be sanguine and the smile will certainly show up, laugh merrily and enjoy the life, "ride's too short, even for a moment to be wasted not enjoying".

Why an addict???????

This is my first blog so bear the pain..

Wearing a Cisco hoody, earphones plugged-in, listening to fever 104, and beautiful voice of richa for almost an hour, I came accross a smart guy in santro car lighting up his cigarette, and 2 steps later a super-thin man on bicycle all ready to intake the tabacoo. I strangely felt something, and a question popped up in my mind what has led these people to this addiction, what is that they share?

I inquired myself and felt to great surprise that the reason is all the same as why i'm walking on these roads aimlessly for hours. Only thing's different is what they chose was not walking but cigarette or tobacco. I didn't believe it at first and then i started pounding my head for answers and what i found out was the same.

The reason a person grows an addiction is becuase it becomes a habit that he grows at the times he doesn't know what to do. See around you and look at people you know are addicted to anything, they'll show you, it all started at times they were confused/depressed, they seek alone time and in ths alone time they seek a different friend i.e. some way to keep up with oneself, and at last everyone finds it at one place or the other, e.g. taking cigarettes as excuse to stay up late at nights.

And as it is found one like the company of the new friend to the fullest and  not the real people, and there is the root, he has become an addict. And when you come out of the hard time its very late, you are already addictive.

So thinking it through i realised do i share something with them? I think i do, not with them but i share the some part of feeling they've been through, things that have come to make them stand alone there lighting cigarettes,and m i going on the same path sitting alone in room listning music, lying on bed for hours, or just taking a walk aimessly that converts to hours before you realise?

I don't know what's the answer to this problem, but when i see it i see that atleast i'm not following the same path as others have grown to be addicted of ,and i can only give here one advice to myself and my friends-  whenever there is a problem don't seek for friend that kill yo,u but choose to fight the situation and try not to be alone, and even if you are do things that doesn't make you an addict , but that build you.