How hard it is being Happy? Or should I say, how difficult it is to accept that you can be Jolly as you are?
I'll start on a general question, which you must have gulped thousands of times in your life. "Do you want to achieve success? Do you want to be happy?" Isn't that the lines you have let into your ears, the every pensive or thoughtful moment you gave to a motivational speech. So what it tells you is that you always need to be successful to be cheerful. But the irony is, the definition of success continuously changes from this moment to other. When you were in college success meant to top the college/ pass with good grades, when doing job, success can mean to be getting promoted on regular intervals. What does this tell us you can never be happy. 'Oops did I say it loud? , did it hurt you?'
Hence the first and the foremost thought is to keep success and happiness separately. Success can be told as something you achieve, while that smile you are longing for is right there, all you need to do is smile. Success is something you cannot acquire until you pursue it arduously, while happiness is the other thing which you will never conquer till you are hunting for it, even minutely. It's like peace, you let the urge go away and you have nailed it. Leaving the success to be a high pursuit chase and happiness is when you know you are pursuing your dream and giving the effort it needs. The idea as popularly known, is to "Fall in love with the journey and not the destination".
There is an obsession with happiness that is being created. As the world is getting better place to live in, we are frequently seeking diverse paths to be cheerful. Around the world more and more sessions are being conducted to teach you to be happy. I remember a similar speech I attended by a person from a famous NGO saying,"In life you have tried this or that to be happy and life is not about trying to be happy but being happy". Then he goes on saying,"we are organising a session, and if you want to be successful and happy, please do join us". I reassured myself about the contradiction he made in his sentences to join the course in search of happiness, which cannot be searched. So I asked him what he meant, only to get a very unsatisfactory reply like we will teach you.
I have no idea, what people need to learn? The answer is simple and clear: "Don't try too hard". But what is everyone doing, they are trying still harder. What you need to do is to enjoy as you are, to be happy for what you have, to be proud of the work you do and to be happy for every single moment by the satisfaction, you are getting to be you. There are moments when you can be sad for one reason or the other, but all counter time you should be happy and not the other way around, as people today have developed. One should not be seeking it, but feeling it. Enjoy what you do, if you can't, change the way you do it.
The idea is simple, you can always find a person successful, but not happy and vice-versa. The trick is simply to resonate with the environment and your heart will sing at double the pace. Be sanguine and the smile will certainly show up, laugh merrily and enjoy the life, "ride's too short, even for a moment to be wasted not enjoying".
